Successful executive coaching is a balance of inquiry with creating a safe space. Sometimes inquiry – being genuinely interested – involves asking tough, probing questions. These questions are not always comfortable.
My personal philosophy of coaching, and how I show up, is very much based on lack of judgment of others. A big part of how I coach my clients is to not make them wrong.
I find that when people don’t feel judged, they are much more willing to speak the truth. And when I speak honestly about what I’m observing, because I’m not judging clients, they don’t get defensive – so they can actually hear the feedback.
Participation in effective executive coaching requires courage – it takes courage to say and hear what needs to be said.